If you’ve ever been a full-time employee, then you’ll definitely have heard of the SMART framework for setting goals. It’s a favourite corporate buzzword for bosses, and it stands for setting goals that are:
As cheesy as it might sound, there is some value in using this acronym to set goals – for children.
And now that 2017 is ending, it’s time to start thinking of setting goals for your child to achieve in 2018, both in academic and non-academic terms. Of course, I’m not advocating that you give them KPIs and deduct their allowance based on their performance, as that would be taking things a little too far.
But since you’ve probably already applied SMART in work situations, why not use it to help your child? Use it as a gentle guide rather than rock-solid rules, and it’ll give your child direction in achieving concrete results.
Here’s how you can apply the SMART acronym when setting goals for your child.
Tell your child what you like them to achieve in numerical terms, instead of generalities. For example, don’t tell them “you need to study harder”, but say “I would like you to get above 60 marks for your Maths SA1” instead. That way, your child knows exactly what is expected of him or her.
This also helps them to see what they need to do and how far they are from their goals, which leads into the Measurable and Achievable aspects of this framework. Remember that they are children, and thus they don’t have the benefit of the life experiences that adults have. Therefore, it is extremely important to be specific about goals, because they don’t have any other examples to extrapolate from.
One benefit of having such an academically-focused education system is that almost everything is measurable. CCA performance can be quantified with a grade, VIA (previously known as CIP) activities can be quantified by hours spent, and PSLE results are quantified by the T-score. So when it comes to setting school-based goals, it’s easy to make them measurable.
You can also set goals that are not school-based activities, and make them measurable. For example, instead of telling them to “spend less time on mobile devices”, say “I want you to spend less than 30 minutes on mobile device per day”. Of course, this means that you should measure how much time they are currently spending on screens (or other activities), then raise or lower it by 10 per cent to start.
Why 10 per cent? That’s because your child’s goals should be:
Imagine this: Your child has been writing 100-word compositions the whole year. Suddenly, you tell them to write at least 150 words for their composition (which is the PSLE standard, by the way).
You’re going to hear a lot of whining, complaining, and pleading before they even get started on that composition. That’s because you’re asking for a 50 per cent increase in the number of words. If your boss asked you to increase your productivity by 50 per cent, wouldn’t you feel as stressed up?
Therefore, it’s important that you set small, achievable milestones for your child. They need to believe that it can be done before they’ll start putting in effort to accomplish a goal. And we all know that attitude is an important factor when it comes to success. Help your child to see the finish line, and they’ll make it there.
In addition, a 10 per cent change is small enough to be achievable, yet large enough to be significant. It’s a good middle ground from which to start, and you can tweak expectations later on.
This may sound similar to the Achievable aspect, but it’s actually about time management rather than feasibility of the goal. Children have to study for multiple subjects for their exams, so when you break down their study time by subject, you’ll realise that they don’t spend as many hours as you think they do on each subject. If they have other activities like their CCAs, enrichment classes, and hobbies, then it’s a zero-sum game. Spending more time on a particular subject or activity means that they have to reduce the amount of time spent on something else.
So in setting your child’s goals, work backwards to figure out how much more time they will need to spend on that goal, and whether they have the capacity for it.
Some parents might think that their children spend too much time playing, and thus reducing their playtime will make up for the extra time required for achieving goals. While that is true to an extent, remember that your child also needs to get used to having fewer leisure hours. Therefore, you have to be realistic about how much time you’re cutting back, and make sure that it’s also achievable.